The most important relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. It mirrors your relationship with others and the world around you.
“Everything starts with you”. How many times have you heard that? Here are my reflections…
Parenthood
Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.
Robert Fulghum
Your kids will rarely success at listening to you but always at watching you. They become a reflection of your beliefs, habits, behaviours… and yes, even your limitations. When you speak to yourself kindly, care for your body and mind, pursue what you truly want, and respect your time, boundaries, and values – they observe. And they absorb. You are setting the example.
To all the mothers out there trying to do it all – work, childcare, housework… here are a few things to remember:
- Don’t forget to include yourself in the care you give.
- You are a superhuman – but only when your cup is full. You can only give what you have.
- The quality of your love and care for others is proportionate to the love and care you give yourself
- Prioritising self-care isn’t selfish – it’s essential. Reaching out for help and allowing it, gives you an opportunity to show up as a better mother a thousand times over. And, your children learn: “I matter too. It’s ok to ask for help”.
Romantic relationship
The human in front of you didn’t cross your path by accident. They are here to help you evolve. They’re a reflection of who you are right now. They will love you only as much as you love yourself. They will respect you only as much as you respect yourself. And what triggers you in them often reflects what you’ve suppressed in yourself.
Feeling insecure? Very likely you’ll attract partner who is unsupportive or dismissive.
Want to be independent? Don’t be surprised if your partner doesn’t step in to help.
Not feeling good enough? Your partner may mirror that inadequacy right back at you.
Every trigger is an invitation to look within and grow more love for your inner child who wants to be seen, heard or held. Instead of blaming your partner, find your greatness beneath the surface of subconscious narratives and old beliefs, so you can emerge as a new version of yourself.
Life experiences
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.
Carl Jung
The way you experience life mirrors how you see yourself – your beliefs, thoughts, and subconscious limitations. The subconscious program running in your mind is also running your life. To change your life you have to be willing to change the program. And it all begins with awareness. Because you can’t change what you can’t see.
So look closely at the areas of life you want to shift.
What are the patterns?
Do you keep attracting the same kind of partner?
Do you live paycheck to paycheck, no matter how hard you work?
Do you get passed over for promotions or feel like your friends never reach out first?
Every pattern is an opportunity to look within & discover more of who you truly are. Ask yourself:
Why don’t I feel worthy?
Where did I learn, “I’m less than”?
What do I believe about success, love and money?
Challenge the validity of those beliefs. Are they really true? Or are they just thoughts that live in your head and rule your life? You are powerful beyond measure. And once you begin to reclaim that power, you’ll start consciously creating the life you truly want.
Believe in yourself.
Dare to step outside your comfort zone.
Take one step at the time.
Keep walking.
